I am wondering about you think about asking for help on a social media site such as LinkedIn? Specifically, if I am asking my network for help in searching for businesses who could use my service. You mentioned not asking help in a group email, not sure a group social media platform would be the same?
I work with first generation students to prepare them for college and this is THE obstacle they cannot seem to overcome. Most seniors who appealed their graduation status, when asked, āHow did you get to this place where you have to appeal?ā said, āI didnāt ask for help.ā That killed my soul and has led me on a quest to find ways to make them ask for help! Any suggestions?
This was concise, pertinent, and as usual, you made it interesting!! Thanks for bringing the good read awards to my attention. Check done for you and James!! You rock!
My husband always says that I ābeat around the bushā when I make requests. Your Pinkcast clearly identified how I need to ask and still feel Iām being polite. Helpful tip!
Recently fractured my ankle. I just used this advice to ask a friend for a lift. They were pleased and I avoid a 2 bus journey to my next medical appointment
The last part is especially important if you work in a company with many people. My job has 300+ individuals, some of which routinely email for help to the entire office, and consequently get low response. I found that people are always willing to help, if you ask them in person, though they may not always be able to help at that particular time. Reading your book now, Dan, thanks again!
After six weeks of applying for jobs that are outside of my present field, I began mulling over the possibility of doing something unconventional. Chip and Dan Heath mention the practice of ooching in their book āDecisiveā¦ā and that idea has stuck with me since I read about it five years ago.
Of course, gaining permission to enter a workspace with the hope of shadowing an employee or ātest-drivingā their terrain would require some major social/business finesse, so your do and donāt video was quite timely, Dan! Iāll follow your advice and let you know how it turns out.
Never underestimate the āaskā with a āwhatās in it for youā rider. Iām asked for help by about 500 people a month ā mentoring, coaching, free editing, ālook at my manuscript,ā or āIām homeless now what?ā questions. Most are requests for answers, advice, or free work. I just donāt have the time. When a young mechanic came to me this week with a request for āhelpā his email read, āI need someone to write up information for my new website. I canāt afford to pay you, but I can guarantee you four hours of mechanical work at your home or office in exchange for your help.ā Wow. Iām in. Iāve offered to babysit, cook, or write reports for those Iāve asked for help for things I couldnāt do. I took over something THEY needed help with if they were to help me. If you ask a co-worker for help, volunteer to get them a coffee, or cover the phones, or do whatever they need doing if it will help them help you. Donāt take other peopleās time for granted. And offer to help if youāre always the one asking. People are more likely to help you if thereās a payoff for them in it.
A client Iāve helped for two years stepped up to the plate to help me, unasked, find a hospital and a discount or free surgery I need to regain my voice (Paralyzed vocal cord for life due to a flu virus ā very common apparently).
Itās hard to ask for help, especially if we have to ask more than once in a blue moon. But these are great tips. Thank you!
Hi Dan,
I am wondering about you think about asking for help on a social media site such as LinkedIn? Specifically, if I am asking my network for help in searching for businesses who could use my service. You mentioned not asking help in a group email, not sure a group social media platform would be the same?
Thanks and appreciate these Pinkcasts,
Paul
I work with first generation students to prepare them for college and this is THE obstacle they cannot seem to overcome. Most seniors who appealed their graduation status, when asked, āHow did you get to this place where you have to appeal?ā said, āI didnāt ask for help.ā That killed my soul and has led me on a quest to find ways to make them ask for help! Any suggestions?
Excellent advice!
This was concise, pertinent, and as usual, you made it interesting!! Thanks for bringing the good read awards to my attention. Check done for you and James!! You rock!
Yes, very helpful. Thanks for sharing. I love the specific examples which are clear, concise ā and most important ā easily repeatable.
My husband always says that I ābeat around the bushā when I make requests. Your Pinkcast clearly identified how I need to ask and still feel Iām being polite. Helpful tip!
I voted twice. Always enjoy your Pinkcasts. Thank you.
Voted for When in the GoodReads poll!
Iāve mentioned this book enough with my friends, peers and team that they think Iām getting paid! Truly eye opening read.
Also the field description above should read āemailā ā¦my first response to āMailā was really?
Recently fractured my ankle. I just used this advice to ask a friend for a lift. They were pleased and I avoid a 2 bus journey to my next medical appointment
Thanks for the short course in asking. Timely for me right now!
The last part is especially important if you work in a company with many people. My job has 300+ individuals, some of which routinely email for help to the entire office, and consequently get low response. I found that people are always willing to help, if you ask them in person, though they may not always be able to help at that particular time. Reading your book now, Dan, thanks again!
After six weeks of applying for jobs that are outside of my present field, I began mulling over the possibility of doing something unconventional. Chip and Dan Heath mention the practice of ooching in their book āDecisiveā¦ā and that idea has stuck with me since I read about it five years ago.
Of course, gaining permission to enter a workspace with the hope of shadowing an employee or ātest-drivingā their terrain would require some major social/business finesse, so your do and donāt video was quite timely, Dan! Iāll follow your advice and let you know how it turns out.
Never underestimate the āaskā with a āwhatās in it for youā rider. Iām asked for help by about 500 people a month ā mentoring, coaching, free editing, ālook at my manuscript,ā or āIām homeless now what?ā questions. Most are requests for answers, advice, or free work. I just donāt have the time. When a young mechanic came to me this week with a request for āhelpā his email read, āI need someone to write up information for my new website. I canāt afford to pay you, but I can guarantee you four hours of mechanical work at your home or office in exchange for your help.ā Wow. Iām in. Iāve offered to babysit, cook, or write reports for those Iāve asked for help for things I couldnāt do. I took over something THEY needed help with if they were to help me. If you ask a co-worker for help, volunteer to get them a coffee, or cover the phones, or do whatever they need doing if it will help them help you. Donāt take other peopleās time for granted. And offer to help if youāre always the one asking. People are more likely to help you if thereās a payoff for them in it.
A client Iāve helped for two years stepped up to the plate to help me, unasked, find a hospital and a discount or free surgery I need to regain my voice (Paralyzed vocal cord for life due to a flu virus ā very common apparently).
Itās hard to ask for help, especially if we have to ask more than once in a blue moon. But these are great tips. Thank you!